“I love you; No matter what.”

This is a phrase that we hear all the time on the television. Many of us have also said this same phrase to our significant other at one point in time. Most of us are not with that same person that we said it to today. This makes me wonder: “Can you really love someone ‘No matter what.’? In life, there is always a limit to everything. There is always an extremity that, once crossed, makes you rethink the decisions that you have made in the past. What that extremity is depends on each individual.

Let’s take for example, murder. Would you still be able to love your other half the same way if you found out that he/she committed murder? Would you be able to even look at that person the same way as before? Can you see past the murder and only believe in the justification that was provided to you along with your love for this person?

What about in the case of domestic violence. Rihanna and Chris Brown are perfect examples of this. What if you were the one who was beaten? Would you still be in love with that person? How about if you were the one doing the beating? Do you still feel that you loved this person no matter what? I mean, if you really did then no matter what he/she could have done or said would make you physically harm the person in such a manner. Or would it? Would you try to justify your self by saying you were teaching the other person some tough love? That’s some concept…

Love can be a very irrational feeling that we experience. The things we say and do while we’re dating in today’s society should really be re-evaluated. There should be some ACTUAL thought put into relationships and what love really means to both individuals. The word love itself shouldn’t be thrown around like some New Year’s Eve confetti. It should be used when both parties know what it is that he or she really wants out of the relationship. I’m not saying that you should wait years before saying it or really meaning it nor am I saying that it should be said within 20 minutes of meeting a person. All that I’m saying is that love should be allowed to develop. I believe that there is a process for everything in the world and love is no exception.